Thinking about motivations...

I was chatting with a friend today...who is incidentally dating my ex husband...more strangeness just for fun. She was talking about her ex and how he has effectively begun to cut himself off from his children. He is building another family with another woman and his own children are starting to wonder why.

When he left my friend, he said that his life was too stressful yet he managed to hook up with another woman with many children and many other fathers effectively getting himself into the middle of a web of crap that made his old life with all of it's busyness look like a walk in the park. So why did he do it? Why is he so willing to leave his own children to not only focus on the issues of this other woman's family but is actually adding to her brood by fathering one of his own. In this equation, he is also removing himself from the lives of his own three children who are left looking around looking for a reason that doesn't include him leaving them because they are unlovable.

Now don't get me wrong, I'm not judging. I'm just wondering. How can anyone look at three children and say I'm outta here? How can anyone just decide that people that were once important are no longer and that starting over will somehow make their life better?

Is it an emotional maturity issue? A mental disorder? Or is it a last ditch effort to take control over their lives by controlling the amount of love they choose to dish out? Is it possible that controlling our love gives us a sense of control over our lives?

If so, it's a sad, sad world....