Elizabeth Gilbert's Committed

Just finished this book being rather a bit of a skeptic on marriage myself. It has some amazingly profound, yet Elizabeth Gilbertish funny comments. Through her neurosis, again we see a different side of life.

Would I get married again after reading this book? Not sure, she makes a pretty compelling argument about the benefits (or not) of marriage particularly for marriage however the ending about the sense of community that marriage brings was exceptionally well written and makes the book worth reading all on it's own.

Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage

Time to get serious about blogging

So last weekend, we watched the love child who has no name. I'm thinking that love daughter is getting closer but not the point, her parents needed to go out so she came here to spend the night. When her Dad dropped her off, he told me that she was so excited that she had started packing 4 days earlier. She walked straight into the house, went right to the fridge to see if her "special drinks" were there and settled herself in for the night.

Not knowing what the little monkey had planned or what plans she was hatching with her brothers and my daughter I figured that I had better get her car seat in case a trip was in order (it was). As her Dad was getting it out for me, he told me that at work that day, he'd been trying to explain our relationship to a co worker. After a half an hour of explaining, and an attempt at a family tree drawing, the co worker apparently looked at him and shook his head saying "that is f@#ked"!

I laughed when I heard it because it happens to us all the time but then started thinking about it. Here we are, a family of people who has chosen to get over our own crap, forgive ourselves and each other and not make everyone's life worse by fighting and it's US that are f#@ked? Seriously.

So all of you out there, take a look at your children and decide what is better for them and everyone else...strangling rage burning below the surface bubbling over every part of your life, or recognizing that everyone is human everyone makes mistakes and no child should ever have to inherit the crap of their parents...? Think about it!

Inaugural Post...what to call the ex's child!

Hello,

As I write this post, I am sipping a cup of tea that my husband's ex wife's 3 year old daughter bought me for Christmas and am still even after all of these years wondering what to call her. I adore the child and she too adores me.

When she was born, we all ran to the hospital and occupied the waiting room with my husband's ex wife's family and her in laws and even back then, our group never saw it as weird. So it's no small wonder that now, 3 years later when we adore that child, we have no language to assign to her.

My daughter calls her her "love sister" but somehow "love child" has a different meaning in this context and still, no one would understand. The closest I have ever come to is the same is what I call my step children...I call them the children of my heart" because even though I didn't give birth to them, I love them like I did.

Perhaps I should just wrap my head around the idea that no one but us will ever understand!